How long you’ve been married?
3 years & 1 month
When did you become aware of each other? And what were the circumstances and setting of your first meeting (if different)?
C: We both transfered to Cal State Fullerton in southern California in 2007. My roommate told me about this funny new group of guys that were coming to our Intervarsity small group while I was out for a month with a night class. So since I knew about him already but he didn’t know me, I introduced myself to him at the Intervarsity larger group gathering one evening to squash the awkwardness. G: That’s when I first became aware of Christy, she was wearing a yellow shirt. C: Then at the end of IV he grabbed the mic and to pretend he was interviewing me…not sure what about though.
First impressions? Did one of you like the other before the other did?
G: After that first meeting, I walked down the hallway, looked back at her and thought, “Hmm, there’s something different about her, something special.” C: First impressions- “Wow, he’s a gangster.” Tall, big hair, saggy pants, rolls with a posse. I must admit it attracted me.
What and where was your first date? What did you think after?
C: Well our first real date was at Bella Cucina in downtown Fullerton (great bruschetta by the way!), but we had already decided to be a couple. G: Our first times hanging out semi-alone (i.e. roommates in the other room) was for “Spanish class” which came about because I happened to want to learn Spanish which she happened to know… C: Yeah, then he held my hand during a movie we were watching with my roommates, and my best friend wisely told me, you guys need to talk!
How long did you date before you got engaged? And when did you realize/decide that the relationship was more than just a dating relationship and was moving towards marriage? Was there a step of faith or aspect of risk in this decision?
G: 6 months! We were on the “advanced dating track”. C: You know, my maid of honor/roommate shared this story at our wedding, but after a couple weeks of dating Giulian, she asked me one night, “I know this is completely crazy, but if Giulian asked you to marry him tomorrow…what would you say?!” I thought about it, and I said, “I think I would say yes!!” G: Our intention the entire time was moving toward marriage, which we made sure we both were clear on as we drove up to the Bay Area to meet Giulian’s family for the first time a few months after we started dating.
Did you experience a moment of “falling in love”? How did your love grow? Was it sudden or gradual?
G: It was gradual, not just one moment but multiple intentional moments. I think we were falling in love before we even started officially dating through multiple group gatherings, trips and conversations. We both look back at that winter break as being an important time of getting to know each other. C: Love also grew through enduring trial together. You begin to see, “this person is really on my team” you know?
How have you pursued growing your love for one another over the years (or months) you’ve been together?
G: We pursued growth together by growing in love for God together, pursuing love by pursuing grace. C: Just being friends and experiencing and enjoying life together. So many folks believe they need to push back marriage until they can complete their “still-need-to-do-this list”. Not true, you continue completing that list together and it’s twice as great of an adventure!
Any verses that have been important to you in your journey together?
C: Eph 4:29 “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” G: Eph 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” It’s not a cliche!
What has been your biggest “leap” as a couple. How was your love for one another challenged & deepened by this step of faith?
C: We’re big leapers! We’ve been through A LOT living in four different cities during the first two years of our marriage. G: Probably living in Brazil for six months. Pouring out yourself for others can actually show you how selfish you really are. C: Plus we were forced to be together 99% of the time for safety reasons, which exposed our own sinfulness even more. Repenting of these things deepened our faith.
Advice you’d give your single selves now that you’re on the other side?
G: Early on, clearly communicate your intentions with dating, and don’t go there until you’re mature enough to lead a woman to Christ. C: Work on not being selfish while you still have time! I neve realized how selfish I was until I was put into the heat, which is easily avoided as a single person. Think about this on the practical, daily level.